6 Keys to improve your self-esteem

Writing self love, self esteem

Self-esteem is one of the factors that most influence our work, social and family success, but to understand this, let's start by explaining what it means.

Self-esteem is the set of perceptions, thoughts and feelings that we have of ourselves; It is the positive assessment of who we are.

The way we see ourselves or perceive ourselves is essential to develop adequate self-esteem. It allows us to know who we are and describe our personal characteristics: physical traits, abilities, preferences, feelings, needs, goals, beliefs and values.

Self-esteem is formed with the perception we have of our person and the qualities that we recognize in ourselves, as well as the realistic acceptance of our areas of opportunity.

 

Where does self-esteem come from?

 

From our parents, our teachers and more people. The people in our lives can influence how we feel about ourselves. When they focus on the good we have, we feel good about ourselves. By being patient when we make mistakes, we learn to accept ourselves. When we have friends and get along with them, we feel accepted.

 

But if adults scold us instead of praising us, it is difficult for us to feel good about ourselves. Bullying and being picked on by your siblings or colleagues also damages your self-esteem. Harsh words leave their mark, and they become a part of what you think and how you feel about yourself. Luckily, things don't have to continue like this.

 

Your inner voice. The things you say to yourself play an important role in how you feel about yourself. Thinking things like: "I am a failure: I always lose" or "I will never make friends" damages your self-esteem.

 

What if I have low self-esteem? Here are some tips to raise your self-esteem:

 

Connect with people who treat you well

Some people act in ways that make you feel bad. But there are other people who lift your spirits with what they tell you. Choose friends who help you feel good about yourself. Find people with whom you can be yourself.

 

Say things that help you

Connect with your own inner voice. For a few days, he writes down some of the things you say to yourself. Check the list. Are they the kind of things you would say to a good friend? If not, rewrite them in such a way that they are true, fair and kind. Read the new phrases often. Do this until the behavior of thinking in this way becomes a habit.

 

Accept what is not perfect

It's always good to do your best. But, when you think you need to be perfect, you can't feel good if you don't achieve that perfection. Accept the best you can give of yourself. And let yourself feel good about it. Ask for help if you can't overcome that need to be perfect.

 

Set goals and strive to achieve them

If you want to feel good about yourself, do things that are good for you. Maybe you want to eat a healthier diet, get fitter, or study better. Set a goal. Then make a plan to achieve it. Follow your plan. Keep track of your progress. Be proud of having come this far. Tell yourself: “I have been following my plan to train 45 minutes a day. I feel good for having made it. And I know I can continue like this ”.

 

Focus on what is going well for you.

Are you so used to talking about your problems that they are the only thing you see? It's easy to be dominated by what is going wrong for you. But, unless you balance it with what works for you, it will only make you feel bad. The next time you find yourself complaining about yourself or having a bad day, find something that worked for you to counter it.

 

Be generous and help others

Helping is one of the best ways to grow your self-esteem. Help a classmate study, help clean up your neighborhood, participate in a fundraiser for a good cause. Help out at home or at school. Make it a habit to be kind and fair to others. Do things that make you proud of the type of person you are. When you do things that are positive for other people, no matter how small, your self-esteem will grow.

 

We all have our good and bad things. Remember that the important thing is that you recognize yourself as you are and as you are.

 

Source: https://www.cesarlozano.com/6-claves-mejorar-autoestima/

Mi autoestima, 2018. Teens Health. Sitio Web: kidshealth.org

Strengthen your self-esteem, Secretary of Health. Website: www.gob.mx/salud

 

Self-esteem is based on the value that a person places on himself, which can be modified over time and requires adequate knowledge and personal acceptance. We must never forget that our value as human beings is great, although we all make mistakes, but we are here to learn and shine, always be positive and patient even when you make mistakes, it is never too late to value yourself and be the best version of you, the Each individual's worth is measured by all those times we get up and keep fighting and improving.

-Dan Sifuentes